Reclaiming Your Power (Revised and Updated)

Contributed by: Aisha M. (aka Ati Hope)

 (revised and updated 05/16/2012)

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Tips For Rediscovering and Reclaiming Your Personal Power

My own experience with being a Targeted Individual is that these criminals will attempt to make you feel powerless and at the same time manipulate you into believing that there is nothing they cannot do. Learning about the power of manipulation and mindful, passive observance of these crimes, plus research and networking with other Targeted Individuals has helped me a lot. It completely beats that lie that they are "all powerful." meaning these criminal groups are not as powerful or "bad-ass" they try to deceive their targets into believing, no matter the technology involved in the covert harassment efforts. These criminals, masquerading as "concerned citizens" simply "looking out for their community or country," when they believe others outside of what is happening cannot see them, they want everyone involved to believe they have power and influence and that you "should" fear them.  Yet experience shows that when you step up in thought, word, and deed saying "I don't care, bring it on, give me your best shot!  See if I fall and stay down!" ---- it scares them. Apparently you are "supposed" to be afraid of them, according to their own "book." When you decide that fear is NEVER good enough and become done with being a victim, it brings fear among them---the criminal groups. Do not be fooled by their manipulation, not even by the very real, but still limited electromagnetic harassment technology for one minute (if it were all powerful, you would have been down and out a long time ago---you're stronger than they are, this tech is limited). These criminals can be beat. They are just as human as we all are and make mistakes just as we all do.Here are my observations and tips on how you can get your own personal power back in view---I say "back in view" because I want to emphasize that it never really left, these criminal groups just wanted you to forget it.

1. One very important tip I recommend: resist the urge to jump to conclusions about what perpetrators can and cannot do. A lot of manipulation and intimidation goes on, especially when it is used against the one who is targeted. So much of it is used to create this false illusion of power and the ability to infiltrate every single aspect of your life. Bold moves are very common in my experience. So is "fronting," attempting to be emotionally manipulative without being direct. E.g. In my own experience---these criminal will attempt a harassment skit that involves putting on the act of becoming angry over anything that I say or do. It is mostly to get my attention, so I attempt to ignore it. These criminals do not like this, so they try to elevate it or try a different harassment skit with it. I do not fall for it because I remember these are manipulation attempts--- we all know what would happen if you or me ever decided to go to these stalkers and "give them a piece of your/my mind"---- always remember the purpose of any harassment skit----it is meant for you to discredit yourself and nothing else. I stated in a previous post that studying manipulators and the process of manipulation has helped me a lot. So one tip here: study the process of manipulation. Some good books that help with this is called "Maximum Self-Esteem"
   The point here is that when you know the psychological games these criminals try to play on you all of the time, you cannot be played by it. This is especially helpful if they attempt to play the same psychological games over and over----these criminal groups tend to be repetitive  with harassment skits if they see you react to one of them. Knowing their games helps you see that it is garbage and you knowing how it works gives you back your own power. Remember these are human beings, not demi-gods. Below this post is a series of videos that goes into the tactics manipulators, narcissists, anti-social, sociopaths, and just plain manipulative toxic people use against those they want to use. Study it, I guarantee by the time you are even half way through the playlist at least 90% of what you listened to can apply to at least the majority of who stalks you. Pay attention to the tips especially on how you can avoid giving them any attention. One interesting tip for dealing with narcissists is to give them very little information about you, but just enough so they can feed off of their ego. For TI's I suggest being deliberately vague and generic when it comes to information that these criminals will overhear. It is a balance between developing an attitude of "no matter what you do, I will not stop fighting" and being as Jesus described in the Bible "as shrewd as snakes, and as innocent as doves." I'll come up with ways to expand on this further. There is one post that I contributed called "How To Survive Organized Stalking and Electronic Harassment." You can check that out if you'd like and see what you can use. Do what feels right for you.
2. Remembering that these criminals fear exposure is very important, especially to reclaim your life and your power. Be More than willing to record evidence on these crimes. In many ways it will decrease many aspects of the targeting, though you may see other ways they attempt to try to compensate for the "loss of power." Keep looking for ways to beat them at this and live your life in the meantime. Do it mainly because they have NO RIGHT to do these crimes against you, and you want to pursue justice. In other words, do it for you. More than anyone else, do it for you. Know who you are and know that you do not deserve this. There is no deserve-ability with these crimes (please excuse the use of all caps, I want to emphasize this because this is important for you, the Target, to remember), NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO DO THIS. IT IS COMPLETELY ILLEGAL, MORALLY WRONG, AND IT HAS TO STOP. Please remember this always, write it down, keep it where you can always see it. You do not deserve these crimes. Do not allow these criminals to manipulate you into developing anything like Stockholm Syndrome (having empathy or sympathy for abusers to the point of providing excuses for them as they continue the abuse). 
3. Hold them responsible for what they do on a daily basis. This fits right into the fact that you do not deserve these crimes.One way to do this is to call out the crimes by their actual names. One thing you will notice is these criminals will attempt to use a manipulation technique called "minimization." This means they try to downplay what they do to you (these covert murder and harassment crimes) so they can feel justified, like the condescending "oh it is not so bad." Right... do not believe that for a minute, do not even spend a minute analyzing that irrational crap or even why they are saying it (to you---directed at you means manipulation, needing you to do it too). It is a cop-out, an attempt to escape responsibility for the crimes they commit, and please know that these perpetrators will attempt to manipulate you into minimizing what they do to you (again, be on the lookout for developing Stockholm Syndrome) so,again, they can justify continuing to do it. Because "it's not so bad"---- right.... again remember that is a manipulation technique called "minimizing" and remember that the attempt to do so is a lie and manipulation so you do not hold them responsible. They will also project and scapegoat onto you as well. More attempts to escape responsibility is what these are. Let your answer be "No." Hold them responsible for what they do. Call out what they do in your mind or aloud, as they are do it, but never direct the "calling out" to them if you can help it. The reason is these criminals will attempt to deny, scapegoat, block, project, just do about anything to further justify doing this. You do not want to call out what they do directly at time, to these criminals it is just an opportunity to deny, deny, deny and hope that you will soon deny like they do, so the justification lie can continue. So as you call out what is happening, ignore any type of "input" you may receive from these criminals. These are just attempts to control your perceptions of what is happening to you by getting you to buy into lies.
   Example of "Calling it like you see it" : Any harassment skit that occurs, no matter how these criminals "dress it up" to look like an "unfortunate event", always remember to call it a staged event and nothing else. You know the difference between reality and staged events.  For example, if a group of people you know to be stalking you are going street theater, always remember it is street theater---don't call it "a group of people gossiping about stalking you." It is not gossiping. We all know what normal gossiping looks like and what you are witnessing when it is stalkers you recognize is street theater. How can you tell/remember this? The process of how street theater is planned and then done: This skit was thought out by all in the group, rehearsed, includes elements they choose through illegal surveillance of you to include in the skit, thought about how to use it some more, and these criminals in every literal sense went out of their way to ensure you and only you would be the only one in a street full of ordinary people to recognize the harassment skit taking place. Another good point is that street theater is done with the purpose of making a target aware that they are being stalked (watched). For a refresher on Staged Events and it's purpose, click here. It is also used to get you to discredit yourself. Also always remembering the purpose of all staged events (to get you to discredit yourself) can help you keep perspective on these events even as they occur.
   
   Affirm to yourself daily this or something like it: 
   
   "These are crimes, I know who I am and I know I do not deserve what is happening to me. Because I love myself, I will do my best to end these crimes for myself and for others who suffer from this. No one can stop me from fighting back, not even these criminals or these crimes."
   
   Affirm this to yourself, never direct this to any of them. One of the things i learned about manipulators is if you confront them directly, they will do all of the above, especially scapegoat and project, to attempt to put all of what they do onto you, to make you feel as if what they do is your fault. Remember that is nothing but a cheap attempt to remove responsibility from who it factually belongs to, and to get you to develop Stockholm syndrome or any sort of blaming yourself for crimes you do not deserve. Here, again, when you call out what is going on, ignore any sort of "input" from any of these criminals. Ignore it and make it easy for yourself to ignore it. Click here to see tips contributed by other victims on this. The point here is that if you hold these criminals responsible for what they do by calling it for what it is and helping yourself remember, they cannot force you to take responsibility for what they are doing to you and keep you from getting down on yourself. Speaking of getting down on yourself...
4. One way a Targeted Individual can help themselves the most is to take good care of their mind and mental health. The psychological aspect of the harassment, it has been my experience, is what the perpetrators of these crimes both look for and require psychological pain and injuries for their crimes to ultimately succeed. It is one reason the misunderstood term "mind control" is mentioned a lot with these crimes. It is the psyche, when you do not take good care of it, that can be the hardest to repair from constant harassment. One of the types of mental illness a Targeted Individual may suffer from as a result of the constant harassment is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), as well as depression, suffer a mental breakdown, and that list can extend depending on any TI's individual case of harassment. Don't let it get to the point where you do have a nervous break down. And if you have, begin the necessary steps to begin that ascent back up to health. Learn the laws regarding patient rights if you ever find yourself in a psychiatric facility. When you are there, let someone else you know that you are there, even if that is another TI online (one you know you can trust). Never mention OS/EH in the facility, even if the harassment continues in there. Stick to symptoms you feel when talking to the doctor. Make it clear you are not suicidal and remain calm as you explain this. No hysterics whatsoever, even when you are angry. Other than this different scenario, take care of your mind. Be relentless in taking good care of yourself. I cannot speak for the experiences of other Targeted individuals on my own, but I do know that the psychological damage is what is aimed at the most in the covert harassment. I want to offer an illustration that I hope further explains my point of the psychological aspects of being a victim of a crime. (Click here to go to the"Taking Care Of Your Holistic Health" section for more of what you can do for your holistic health)
   
   
   
   An Illustration on Psychological Injury vs. Physical Injury
   
   
   Say a young man was walking home at night and on his way down a one-way street, he was ambushed by a group of people who simply wanted to play a prank on a passerby. They bound his hands, put a brown sack on his head, take him to a nearby creek, force him to stand in it and threaten they will drown him. He's standing in that rushing creek, can feel the water up to his ankles and these people are shouting all kinds of threats and taunts at him, such as "we're going to drown him, wake you back up (CPR, etc.), just to drown you all over again!" This man is scared out of his mind, so much that he is pleading for mercy, even wetting himself right now. These people just laugh and continue the taunts for a few more moments. Once they decide they have had their "fun", these people decide to finish off the prank---they push him face forward into the creek. It is only then when he falls into that creek that he can feel that water is that not only even close to being two feet deep, and to add insult to injury, his hands were not even bound all that tight. The rope is even lose. He realizes this and slides his hand out f the rope, yanks that sack off of his head, and sees enough into the night to see the pranksters running off, laughing at the joke they just pulled off. The man was never physically assaulted, hardly any of the creek water got into his mouth when they pushed him forward due to the sack over his head. Other than being wet from sitting in this creek, he is physically fine. And on his way home, he is feeling all sorts of anger, rage, shame, fear, etc. He can't press charges, he didn't get a good look at these people. He doesn't even know what race, age, how many males or females there were, nor just how many people were there. He feels helpless to do anything about what just occurred. He may never take that same route home again, even if those people were to never show up there again. It is that psychological part that gets damaged, even though his body is generally fine. The physical stress may pass long before the mental anguish he may feel will pass. Anything from deciding to carry a gun from now on to looking over his shoulder out of fear, to deciding to take self-defense classes, to keeping this absolutely secret so he cannot be made to relive what was a humiliating experience again via jokes and taunts, etc. His body is fine and he was never harmed, so what was ultimately sought after here?
   
   
   
   My experience with handling harassment and the perpetrators of OS/EH who commit these crimes against me is that many of what those who do it want is a sense of power they get from it. I can't say much for the ones who finance it, it seems their objective in the program is never what they tell those they send to stalk you is. To see more information on my opinion on this as well as some facts that may point in that direction, click here. Again as this is my opinion as to the "reasons" some perpetrators join these stalking groups and continue to commit very illegal acts, I still ask you to read up on organized stalking and electronic harassment and form your own conclusions about these crimes, especially as it informs your own experience as a Targeted Individual. This is such a "tree-and-branch crime", like these two crimes are the tree, the criminal group who finances these activities of these criminal activities are the "roots", the desired end result of the criminals who are ultimately the ones who provide funding for these crimes is the "seed", and the "branches" are the other crimes committed in the commission of organized stalking and electronic harassment/assault.  There are a few ways to see with your own experience  what perpetrators are and are not capable of doing when it comes to your own experience as a TI is through passive observance. Big caution here: If you choose to give observing what the perpetrators in your own life do a try (meaning, for example, along the lines of if a street theater skit is occurring, passively listening without internalizing what is being said as you go about doing your normal business, such as taking out the garbage. Always keep it legal. Always), I'd advise being very cautious about getting too caught-up in the staged events of these crimes, for your own sake. It is absolutely impossible to waste the time of these criminals (most get some sort of incentive to do this, such as pay), even when you do see that what these criminals are doing to you is having a reciprocal effect on them in a big negative way, (like a "live by the sword, die by the sword" effect you witness), and it does help in terms of seeing justice in small ways like this, for your own health, you do not want to dwell on what these criminals are doing to you. To borrow from what another Targeted Individual advised me concerning handling organized stalking and electronic harassment: "even warriors need a break."
   So, yes, decide that OS/EH is not going to be your whole life. Reach out. Do not cooperate with these criminals by being a victim. Network with other Targeted Individuals. (Go to the Resources For Victims page for more information). As a rule, give uninvolved people (those who are both not TI's and not criminals who commit these crimes) more credit than the perpetrators tend to. My own experience is that they will lie to uninvolved people, constantly. Let the perpetrators be the "maintainers" of these lies. Let the perpetrators be the ones to discredit themselves. You go be yourself. Decide you will not play their games anymore, and the first major step is to take good care of that mind of yours. Second best, your physical health.
   Third, I recommend, your spiritual health, whatever your belief in that higher power or lack of belief in that higher power may be. Just to note here: please be aware that if you do begin to stop playing the "games" of these criminals by refusing to be a victim anymore, these criminals will do as much as they can to deter you and it definitely means when you fight back, expect a backlash from the group (organized) stalking individuals, and that includes reaching out for help. Do not be deterred. And if you do not ignore or be healthy or do it all perfectly, no more beating yourself up for it. Become your own best cheerleader. Literally, cheer for yourself. Shrug your shoulders, think "so what? I'll just start again now" and think of being your own cheerleader as habit building. No more "crap, I failed again!" No more. Think this instead, or something like it, "I am building positive new habits and I will practice each day, and get better each day. Each time I practice these new positive habits, I become better and better at it. Practice of these habits makes a new positive practice in my life. I love my life and I love myself. Life is good." Practice building a new positive practice in your own life, which as of now includes a "can-do" attitude. What can be done? What can you do to make a positive impact for yourself and your health, as well as those you love and new and old friends? Make "Can-Do" your new practice. And keep going. Plus, ignore any "input" from the criminals who stalk you. See it as propaganda they need you to believe in order to control you with their OS/EH, and they will say and do anything to get you to become their victim. Also never mind any attempts they may make to get you to justify yourself, become defensive over what you do to fight back, etc. Again, propaganda, like a "game" you are designed to lose in their book. You will never convince them and good news, it is not your job to do so. Really good news. Let them spout their "input" (aka harassment skits) and just do what you do, no justification necessary. God bless you all. I do. And please, do the same for yourself and for others.
   
   - Aisha Madison (aka Ati Hope)
   
   
   
   
   These are the videos that can act as a general starter for learning about manipulators